Today, the world does not make sense.
This is Sophia with her BFF N, taken a few weeks ago during a vacation we had in Western Ma.
I have talked about N a few times here as she and her parents are incredibly dear to us and are close friends. N has embraced Sophia as her little playmate and has cared for her like only a 2 year old can. While I was pregnant and on maternity leave Kristine, Neala’s mom, was a constant source of support and a great caregiver. She is an incredible role model. When we moved from Boston we knew that leaving and missing N, and Kristine and Arthur, would suck.
And it has.
When we saw them a few weeks ago Kristine and Arthur were getting ready to welcome a new itty bitty one into the world. The baby was a bit of a surprise as K and A were not supposed to be able to get pregnant the “normal” way. The were due in just 4 weeks. Our mutual friend Jess (also on vacation with us) was also preggers with their 2nd, due around Christmas. Our families were growing and we were growing together. It was a great opportunity to be able to vacation with the whole crew knowing what was in store for us all over the next year. Exciting, thrilling stuff.
Jess with Sophia, N (Jess’s son), and N reading a morning story.
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We found out this morning that Kristine’s baby passed away in utero. A little girl, Baby G was somewhere around 37 weeks. She seems to have been healthy, when she was delivered they found that the cord had wrapped around her. The sorrow we feel is like nothing I have ever experienced. I can only imagine what our dear friends must feel.
Yesterday I asked for your embarrassing stories to make me feel less embarrassed.
Today I ask for your thoughts, prayers, and comforting vibes for Kristine, Arthur, and N to make them feel less sorrow. While they are aware of this blog’s existence they do not usually find their way to here. However, they may and I may share this post with them. I wish I could be there in person guys, I love you.
Can you feel the love?! Kristine, Arthur, N and Sophia, June 2007
And in turn, I give you a bit of a giggle, for even in dark times we must search for joy…
N “takes care” of S, June 2007 - picture taken after we removed the stickers from Sophia’s body.
I’m so sorry to hear the sad news about your friends. Good thoughts and prayers are being sent for them.
07 Nov 2007 at 1:23 pm
I am so very sorry…what a horrible, terrible, senseless loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you all and especially with your friends.
07 Nov 2007 at 1:29 pm
Oh, Wendy, I am so, so sorry. Many prayers for Kristine and Arthur and for you and your family.
07 Nov 2007 at 1:30 pm
I’m so sorry to hear about your friends. warm thoughts and prayers going their way and yours.
07 Nov 2007 at 1:35 pm
Oh Wendy…. that is heart-breaking news. Kristine and Arthur are in my prayers.
07 Nov 2007 at 1:37 pm
Oh no! I don’t even know what to say. I cannot imagine anything more awful than this. I am so, so sorry for your friends and their family. I will be keeping you & them in my prayers & thoughts.
07 Nov 2007 at 1:55 pm
the world makes no sense whatsoever. I am so sorry for your friends, such hope for a miracle child then such deep sorrow. I just lost my father a few days ago, the pain is raw and your story made me cry. Thank you for the beautiful photos in your post. My heart goes out to you all.
07 Nov 2007 at 2:03 pm
Same thing happened to a good friend of mine 13 years ago. I was also preggers at the same time, so I was really feeling sad and guilty at the moment. She went on to have two girls, but still mourns the loss of her son. I’m sending comforting thoughts through the blogiverse for your friends and you.
07 Nov 2007 at 2:05 pm
There are really no words . . . I’m so sorry for your friends. They truly are in my thoughts & prayers.
07 Nov 2007 at 2:15 pm
I’m so sorry Wendy. Please pass my thoughts along to your friends. That’s just too awful.
07 Nov 2007 at 2:43 pm
K&A&N — I’m sorry.
07 Nov 2007 at 2:46 pm
I am so sorry for Kristine, Arthur & Neala, and for you and your family, and for all of your friends who are touched by this loss. Thoughts and prayers.
07 Nov 2007 at 2:46 pm
Oh Wendy, this is just so terrible and tragic. Please tell Kristine and Arthur that we’re thinking of them. They’re such lovely people raising such a lovely daughter, and it devastates me that they won’t get the opportunity to raise Baby G into the lovely person I am sure she would have been.
My love to all of you.
07 Nov 2007 at 2:53 pm
My heart is breaking, for them, for you, for the child that could have been. I will be thinking of them hoping they find healing and peace.
07 Nov 2007 at 2:55 pm
My dear friend, I am so sorry. Your heart is breaking for your friends and I wish I could be there to comfort you. I’ll be keeping all of you in my thoughts and prayers.
07 Nov 2007 at 3:01 pm
That’s horrible. I will keep them in my thoughts.
07 Nov 2007 at 3:04 pm
It seems like the world isn’t making sense for a lot of people lately. I’ll be keeping your friends, and you, in my thoughts.
07 Nov 2007 at 3:09 pm
All of my warmest thoughts and love to Kristine and Arthur and N. They are wonderful people. The world truly makes no sense sometimes.
07 Nov 2007 at 3:11 pm
My gosh, i can’t even imagine the pain they must be feeling-thoughts and prayers are with your friends!!!! how heartbreaking-brings tears to my eyes. hugs for you all!!!
07 Nov 2007 at 3:16 pm
I am so sorry to hear of your friends loss. I hope that they do see the blog and the comments and feel some sense of comfort in knowing all of us strangers are thinking of them.
07 Nov 2007 at 3:22 pm
As the mom to a 5-week-old that we nearly lost during delivery, my heart just breaks for Kristine, Arthur and little N. To go through all that and then to have to face a huge valley of loss… Words just seem trite. They and you are in my thoughts today.
07 Nov 2007 at 3:35 pm
Nothing I want to say seems right or even meaningful. My heart breaks for your friends. I cannot begin to fathom what they’re facing right now. You are all in my thoughts.
07 Nov 2007 at 4:55 pm
What a horrible thing to happen to such lovely people. We only met them once, but they are people you could just feel the good ooze out of. I can’t imagine how crushing this must be to them and everyone that knows and loves them.
If I can do anything for them let me know. I’m happy to cook them dinner and deliver it on your behalf or take care of N (you used her full name in one of the first paragraphs of this post) or anything else you can think of. Really, if I can help them, let me know.
07 Nov 2007 at 5:40 pm
I’m so sorry. That’s terrible. They are in my thoughts and I’m sending love to all of you.
07 Nov 2007 at 6:12 pm
Oh sweetie, that’s awful.
Nothing to say. I’m sure your friendship will be a comfort. xo Kay
07 Nov 2007 at 6:40 pm
I’m so sorry for your friends, Wendy. They’re in my thoughts.
07 Nov 2007 at 6:54 pm
I cannot imagine the heartbreak of your friends. I wish them comfort and care during what is sure to be a terrible time.
07 Nov 2007 at 9:35 pm
That is such terrible news. K&A are in my prayers.
07 Nov 2007 at 10:07 pm
I’m so sorry…
07 Nov 2007 at 10:25 pm
I’m so sorry for you and your friends. I also know the pain of the loss of a baby before you even knew them. My sister lost her first baby (a girl) at full term due to a knot in the cord. None of it makes any sense.
07 Nov 2007 at 10:52 pm
What sad news for that lovely family and those who love them.
07 Nov 2007 at 11:17 pm
I’m so sorry for your friends’ loss of their child. I wish I had words to cure their sadness.
07 Nov 2007 at 11:40 pm
sending up many prayers for your friends.
08 Nov 2007 at 12:30 am
Many prayers. I am so sorry for you and your friends. Such thing should not happen to anyone!
08 Nov 2007 at 9:19 am
What a horrible loss. I’ll be thinking of them.
08 Nov 2007 at 9:58 am
The same thing happened to my sister earlier this year. They had absolutely no explanation as to why it happened. My nephew was beautiful, no abnormalities, no cord around his neck.
My heart breaks for your friends. There are no words to say in times like these. Thank goodness for the love and support of good friends. I will say a prayer for them.
08 Nov 2007 at 11:30 am
I am so sorry, Wendy. As you know, our friends experienced something similar this year, and the death of a child is just so senseless and inconceivable. Please convey my condolences.
08 Nov 2007 at 12:29 pm
You and your friends have all that I can give. What a horrible, horrible thing. I’m so very sorry to hear it.
08 Nov 2007 at 12:46 pm
Oh, I’m so sorry. They’ll be in my prayers.
08 Nov 2007 at 12:48 pm
I’m so very sorry. You and your friends are in my thoughts.
08 Nov 2007 at 1:04 pm
What a terrible thing to endure. My thoughts are with your friends.
08 Nov 2007 at 2:38 pm
I’m terribly sorry for your friends. It’s a horrible shock and an enormous loss. My thoughts are with you and them.
08 Nov 2007 at 2:47 pm
I’m so sorry, Wendy. What a horrendous loss. You are all in my thoughts and heart.
08 Nov 2007 at 3:15 pm
How terrible, my heart goes out to them. They’ll be in my prayers.
08 Nov 2007 at 4:14 pm
My heart just sank reading this post. I’m 35 weeks pregnant and have grown accustomed to my little ones movements and kicks and was but a minute ago whining to a friend about how hard these last 5 weeks were going to be, but right now, I can only be thankful and appreciate it all. My heart goes out to them.
08 Nov 2007 at 5:20 pm
Heartbreaking. Sending out lots of warm thoughts and prayers.
08 Nov 2007 at 6:39 pm
sad beyond words!
a big hug to you and to your friends
08 Nov 2007 at 11:53 pm
We almost lost our first during delivery to a cord incident. The senselessness of such a random death, caused by the thing supposed to give life, is extra painful. Please count our love and prayers in with everyone else’s.
09 Nov 2007 at 10:49 am
Peace to them. I know it won’t come soon, but eventually.
09 Nov 2007 at 10:59 am
My heart goes out to that whole family. What a horrible blow, so close to when they were supposed to be feeling such extreme joy. Wishing all of them healing and peace as they mourn.
10 Nov 2007 at 12:23 am
What a horrific thing to experience! My heart goes out to ALL of you.. please, please, let us know if we can do anything! Lots of love….
10 Nov 2007 at 2:29 pm
That’s just dreadful. I am so terribly sorry … my thoughts and prayers go out to Kristine, Arthur, N, and everyone who loves them.
10 Nov 2007 at 4:23 pm
The worst possible happening. My thoughts and prayers to Kristine, Arthur & Neala and to their friends and family as you support them in this awful time.
11 Nov 2007 at 4:54 am
I’m so sorry to hear this very sad news. There is nothing harder than losing a child. My heart goes out to them and to you.
11 Nov 2007 at 9:27 pm
When I first read this post my mind went blank: I could think of absolutely nothing to say. Been there done, well, not that exactly, but I’ve been there. It’s all so overwhelming. And stupid. And I’ve been thinking of all of you, and I’ll continue to do that.
13 Nov 2007 at 8:04 pm
I just found this post completely randomly, and I am so sad for Kristine, Arthur, and N - and everyone who was ready to love their new baby. I experienced a loss at 37 weeks earlier this year, also likely to a cord accident. It is brutally difficult and I can’t offer much other than sympathy. However, there are resources online and some books that I found helpful in the beginning. Please email me if you like - I would be happy to share what (little) I know.
28 Nov 2007 at 1:17 am